We don’t follow stereotypical gender roles and maintain stereotypical masculine and feminine appearances. Why? Because we don’t fit the heteronormative idea that all people fall into the gender binary of either male or female. I, however, do not feel celebrated nor do other transgender folks who don’t align with the gender we were so eagerly assigned by others at birth, with labels tossed around as party games. (Truly everything from forest fires to car explosions to fistfights have dominated news headlines after people tried to go viral in their one-upmanship in the use of pink and blue props.)
The proof of this ignorance is in the millions of dollars being spent on gender reveal parties and even more millions spent on damages caused by them. Even after science and peoples’ lived experiences have told us otherwise, the majority of folks still believe that biological sex is the same as gender. That said, my name is feminine, and I have hips, so people not only assume that I have to be one of only two genders they assume that I fall under the “female” category of those two options. So I switched to they/them pronouns and had gender-affirming top surgery. I finally got to the place where being referred to as a “woman” with female pronouns and gendered language made me feel small, irritable, and sad.
But being forced to choose one gender has always made me cringe.
Other times, I feel a mix of being both male and female. Most often, I don’t feel like I have any gender. It wasn’t until I heard the words “genderqueer,” “nonbinary,” and “gender-fluid” that my identity at last made sense. I spent years trying to decide if I would be happy socially and medically transitioning from female to male. I have always presented as masculine based on society’s expectations of masculinity and femininity, and for a time I wondered if I was male. They’re LEGIT the best damn thing! The 4th trimester has been the hardest trimester yet, but I’m a happy, healing mom over here.A post shared by Amber Leventry lived almost 40 years as a female, but that label never felt right or like the whole story. This was me a few days postpartum and my God, I’ve been LIVING in these briefs.
"No book I’ve read, advice I’ve gotten, that could have compiled ALL the things I’d need just to sit, lay down, walk, or even hold our baby. "While being a new mom is the most exhilarating moment I have ever experienced in my life- nothing prepared me for postpartum. We've often seen women share photos of themselves posing with tiny stomachs just days after birth in their "snapback" pictures, but Jeannie wanted to share that those images aren't everyone's reality. Meanwhile, over on Instagram, Jeannie got real about postpartum as she shared a photo of herself immediately after birth. In the studio, The Real hosts erupted in excitement as they each contended that they had an inkling that Jeezy and Jeannie were having a little girl. "I'm very excited to share that Monaco Mai Jenkins is a girl," Jeannie said in the clip.
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